When my kids were young, they were wild. Like make other people uncomfortable wild. The fact was they were not rule followers and neither were they interested in walking a traditional path. As a mom, these times were often tough since we were pushed out of groups, not invited to events or just given the evil eye. Keep in mind when my kids were young, "first time obedience" was a big deal and kid's choices and feeling were not considered in typical families. Walking a different path (with my kids climbing the trees), was challenging, yet looking back I find it rewarding.
A highlight is now when I see some of the same moms who left us out or steered clear of my kids, they have questions about my wild ones. They want to know how they are so passionate and interested in their areas of study, how they are so motivated and not distracted by social media peer influences. These inquiries always point back to what am I doing that they are not with their teens to get this behavior.
Honestly, I attribute it to relationship, valuing opinions and choices, and letting them have a childhood where they could run wild challenging the boundaries and rules arbitrarily set by others.
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