Comparison

So often we fall into the trap of comparison.  The view in our Facebook feed, blog reading, or even from our seat at the park can trap us into comparing your real life to what other's let you see.  It has been said "comparison is the thief of joy." 

As homeschooling moms, we are not immune to comparison.  This week as I see smiling kids returning to school, I remind myself not to compare this to the path our family is walking in choosing to home-school.  As I hear moms getting together for breakfast, I remind myself not to compare to my messy breakfast at our bar over sticky devotional books.  As other home-school moms discuss the latest curriculum, I remind myself not to compare the "rabbit hole" exploring method that works for us.  As other kids follow directions the first time, I remind myself not to compare these actions to the passionate, outspoken children in my family.  As other brothers and sisters play quietly, I remind myself not to compare them to my rowdy, rambunctious crew. 

Key is remind yourself that God blessed you with this path and your family.  Don't let comparison take your focus.  

Needs Change

In my early years of parenting with a toddler holding my hand and a baby strapped to my chest, I traveled with a mom squad.  Meaning outing to the zoo, children's museum, pool, and beach were meticulously planned with my mom friends.  I needed the support, I needed the interaction.  I needed the activity.

Now as we move into the later elementary years, I travel around with "just us."  Meaning: me, my son, my daughter, and many times my husband, of course.  Why? Because needs change.  

We need time to be ourselves.  We need time to bond, share experiences, and go on adventures together.   We need to enjoy the flexibility our lives have right now.

Do what works for you.  Needs change.

Overcoming Unexpected Challenge

Everyone experiences unexpected challenges at some point on the homeschooling journey.  Recent challenges around our home include:

• one extrovert/one introvert child---so on any given day one can't wait for activities with others and one just wants a day alone.
• Dryer stops heating just as sweaty football season begins
• Week long travel for husband pops up on the calendar 
• Friend reveals she is struggling in her marriage
• Volunteer work that throws the entire day for a loop with time changes and rescheduling

The key to unexpected challenges is how I over come them.  Prayer, breathing, and rhythm are essential for me as I struggle and deal.

• I pray daily to meet the needs of each family member through strength provided by Christ
• Breathing past the initial frustrating of a broken appliance, I find a solution in an outdoor clothesline
• Having a rhythm to our weeks makes unexpected travel an opportunity for a special treat or outing
• Prayerful support of others benefits everyone when a friend is hurting
• Return to our rhythm when a commitment turns it upside down and remember the experience when volunteering again

Challenges or routine, struggles or picture perfect days, breathe it in and love the life you are living.  

Not Planning

This month I made a strong effort NOT to get sucked in to all the home-school planning that is taking place.  I am a planner by nature, but I found in the past planning can be consuming and doesn't really work out well for our family.  So this August while other homeschooling mamas are crazy planning, buying, and scheduling, I am maintaining our summer routine.  We take trips to the river, slide at the water park, hike the foothills, and camp remotely as a family. We read, play games and picnic along the way.  

Being present in this season is the goal.  I am enjoying this time of creating memories and strengthening bonds with my family.  I will admit I do hold one plan for the upcoming fall season.   

Remaining FEARLESS in my role as wife and mom.  

Some people choose a word for the year each January.  I like to choose a word, verse, and/or mantra each fall after finding peace and calm during the summer.  

Fearless

2 Timothy 1:7

The Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love, and self-discipline.